LORDY!!! What an essay. What can I say? Being raised and being a young adult in the '60-70's era, We were propagandized relentlessly about women struggles. A mass assault of gargantuan proportions. Then there was my house where I was raised.
My father worked like a slave in a swelter furnace. Massive strength and endurance required. Due to the filth, showers were provided for the men after quittin time. My father walked out wearing a suit and tie. Men mocked him for such, he mocked them back, never changed his style. That Polack dressed like an English Lord always. My mother complimented that look.
My mother was the poster child for love and compassion to her six children and husband. There was no question that the husband came first. Dinner promptly at 5. Kitchen closed at 6.
We six knew the rules, we had our chores. At no time was there evidence that children lived in the house, save for bikes in the back yard and 7 pairs of ice skates hanging above the basement steps. It was a well oiled machine that worked perfectly. No fights, no back talk, no arguments between siblings, no help with our homework (that was our job), home when street lights lit up, out of sight by 8:30, parents sitting on the couch together. Then came Feminism.
It was a murder of crows. Even as a kid I could see that something was very wrong with that groupthink. That scenario compared to my happy family made no sense to me. Succumbing to feminism for about a year, it all came to a head for me when I was out with girlfriends in a rock n roll bar and a drunk young man put his hand on my butt. I slapped his face and he fell off a stool. I immediately regretted that. It was too late. What did I do to that kid? That memory haunts me to this day. I walked away from the feminist metastasis cancer and never looked back.
I never felt like I was in a camp. We were taught respect for each other. The happiest childhood I could ever imagine. My father was a riot, no one could command a room better than his litany of jokes. My mother was reserved. Five sisters together we laughed till we cried. Sound like boot camp to you?
Unless you're referring to a crime being committed, a woman who can't handle "unsolicited attention, aka harassment" in a mature fashion, you're right, I have no sympathy for, not a lick. I reacted strongly just once, regretted it, and never did that again because I learned how to act and respond properly and respectfully in the presence of men. Ashamed of being a female? , you gotta be kidding.
Feminism is a War on Humanity. Here's an except from a piece I've penned:
"To set the tone for the rest of the article, let’s read the following passage from Baxter Dmitry, who we will reference later on in the article:
“...First we need to remember that for a woman, love is an instinctive act of self-sacrifice. She gives herself to her husband and children and is fulfilled by seeing them thrive and receiving their love, respect and gratitude.
A woman makes this supreme sacrifice to only one man who will cherish her and provide for his family. Men instinctively want to fulfill this responsibility. This is the essence of the heterosexual contract (i.e. marriage): female power in exchange for male power expressed as love.
Sex is the symbol of this exclusive bond. Marriage and family may not be for everyone but it is the natural path for most.
Feminism has trained women to reject this model as “an old fashioned, oppressive stereotype” even though it reflects their natural instincts.”
You should go find a forum that you can be positive within. You're not telling us anything we haven't heard, and if it hasn't convinced us by now, it never will.
Great essay! I am pleased to see Janice Fiamengo's excellent work acknowledged so eloquently. And, of course, am delighted to see your kind summary of my own contributions. I'd love to connect with you. Could you contact me please? Contact-Website@bettinaarndt.com.au
"the casual cruelty of mothers teaching their sons to hate themselves"
That's one thing that stands out to me every time I hear a woman speak of the supposed inherent evil of all men. I have two sons of my own, and I can't imagine holding such a low view of them.
Well, this is the 1st time I’ve ever found your writings to be distasteful. In fact ~ it’s downright blatantly against the female side of humanity. Every single sentence was slagging women off… no mention of men’s shortcomings!? Perhaps you’d like to do a piece on the downfall of masculinism? Next…. As this article has red flags 🚩in every sentence. Things AREN’T Black&White; as this long knife article leads one to believe.
I despair! Having loved many men, been married, engaged, and had a good rapport with the opposite sex, as well as encountering 1 or 2 bad apples in my lonng life; I’ve worked enthusiastically, raised my children (with & without support), and never paid for childcare, even when raising them alone, yet still being independent. I don’t vilify GOOD PEOPLE, Dislike bad people… it doesn’t matter if they’re male or female… The Human Race has bad apples on both sides. ….This long rant doesn’t look into this. It only serves to condemn the strong female. It doesn’t look into the controlling and bad violent men.. which do outnumber women actually. Men aren’t saints, nor women. But women don’t belong in the kitchen, nor are they men’s property, nor do they deserve less wages for the same job; just because they’re women.
I’m a scientist and an artist. Women can be good scientists… this article says they can’t be.
…..In fact, the whole long whine of this article put BECOMING, Sorry; UNBECOMING, To SHAME !!!
I’ve never read such Tosh in my Life!
…Can only assume the DEI globalist agenda has worked… just like BLM (Lo, MLM!!.. so do WLM!!!)…. And the whole “alternative truthist narrative” has fallen hook line and worm, for the turn, that is, the division, between men and women, and decried women as bad, as opposed to the poor oppressed men…. WHAT TOSH!!!
Get your Act together, or I might have to stop listening to this nonsense. Stop all this B&W rubbish of using someone’s opinion as fact… the world is multifaceted and complex.. it’s not “Women bad~Men persecuted”…. Far from it! The Patriarchy is alive and kicking, more than ever. Men are still controlling, manipulative and hide women their: partners, from integrating with other people, especially women. I watch it 1st hand.
Not once do you mention how man-I-Pull-A-tive MEN ARE.. How they strive for Dominance. Especially over women…. All you do is slag off women in every sentence.
We are evolving. 2 sides of Humanity.. most of us are happy in our skins and with each other…
Shame YOU Can’t be. Home schooling is out of the question for most.. and children need to mix with other children. There are not designated roles for parents… it’s up to the individual. I haven’t seen any shaming of husbands on tick-tock.. I don’t see it, or many social media platforms. I live in the real world. And what I see is a mix. Many good men, and mostly good women, but a few bad apples either side, but mostly Men who are Controlling… of their own women, and restricting. They don’t like strong single women either. You know..those that support themselves, are creative, intelligent, not interested in flattery, gone past the raising children era, soulmate passed away from cancer years ago, Jack (or Jo) of all trades, like gardening, accounts, cooking, negotiating, and Master of a few “Trades” too… as one would expect in later years.
Look; we are all human… why put down the average female, and ignore the sins of males?
This article reeks of misogyny…. It tries to negate any possible attack against it, but honestly… it is Trash!
Why don’t we think of a world, beyond the rubbish DEI (BLM etc), and realise that BOTH SIDES OF THE HUMAN RACE… MALE & FEMALE….. Yin/Yang… Sun, Mooon… ALL MATTER, & Harmony between Us is the goal, not goading one side against the other.
I'm glad to be having this conversation. I want to make it plain that I like men in fact they are my best friends usually. However I can't deny what I see. Whatever women do, pales in comparison to what men seem to constantly get themselves into - war. All our societal documents are written solely by men and this peeves me because how can they be balanced when only one perspective is put forward? I thing we ought to put patriarchy behind us and now build new models in society based on true egalitarianism. Not for anyone to rule over anyone else. We can do that now with technology that we all possess. The past is ugly because it was only men who dictated how life would be for everyone. They didn't think anything of going to war. The entire legal system is riddled with the belief in supremacy and that is the real problem - the idea that some are more superior than others (which also puts others in an inferior position) And this dynamic is constantly in our faces in everyday life as people have come to accept it without their knowing. I am not a feminist, I am a humanist, and a naturalist that cares about all humanity and nature. We can't keep going the way we are with our battering of nature and each other. With our warmongering and some living lavishly while others starve. It's a perfect time to begin a new direction.
1. Do average men (the overwhelming majority of men) ever benefit from the wars they are sent to fight?
2. Do women idolise and sexualise soldiers?
3. Do women ever throw panties at strippers dressed as soldiers and turn into a slippery mess in the presence of 'men in uniform' (men dressed as professional killers)?
4. Have women ever shamed and ostracised men who refused to go to war?
5. Have women ever intervened to stop war, stepping onto the battlefield to save their husbands, brothers or sons by standing in solidarity with them?
6. Women as a group consistently vote for bigger government and more government taxation and spending - which in turn leads to escalating wars. Has any women's movement ever proposed a reduction in the size of the state (and its eventual elimination altogether) which would require women to go back to being dependent on men once more? If war is an effect of taxation, then women's voting habits are in fact the primary cause of war, and men being turned to mincemeat on the battlefield is simply a consequence of war.
7. Women are the majority of voters. Women are the majority of teachers and daycare staff. Fathers have been driven out of the family home by feminism. Single motherhood is at an all time high and is promoted as a lifestyle choice by feminists. Feminism has all but eradicated men from the lives of children. The mass media and Hollywood are completely feminised and promote feminist dogma. So are schools and universities. Why is this trend creating more chaos, confusion, conflict and division in society and not less?
8. Before claiming we would have a utopia if women were in charge, you need to prove your premise that women are NOT in charge currently.
9. Generals sitting around a table 2000 miles from the front lines do not fight wars. Ordinary soldiers fight wars. If a general claims he is not responsible for war because he never got his hands dirty on the battlefield, do you accept his claim? If not, why do you assume women are not responsible for war?
10. Is it fair to say that throughout the animal kingdom females often provoke males to fight (sometimes to the death) and that the females will only accept and mate with the winning male? Did you know that female lions bite male lions engaged in such competition, to provoke them into finishing the fight, whenever they show signs of wanting to make peace and chill out as bros? Did you know that in high crime neighbourhoods women looking for a boyfriend will select men who have served time in prison for violent crime over men who have not?
As to the fights between males over females in the animal kingdom, this is a red herring. We are animals but we are nothing like them. Everything we think comes only from the male perspective. If you say anything at all that made sense it would be to tell women to design their own system. But instead the argument always is trying to prove that females are just as violent as males, and we know that is not true. That even you would be taken aback if three men walked out of a tavern late at night, as opposed to three women. There is nothing like it and men think they know but they only know half of everything to know.
"Everything we think comes only from the male perspective."
So here you are defining women as children, imbeciles, objects or clouds of inert gas. This allows you to evade all responsibility for women's behaviour and women's contributions to the state of the world, which I would argue is more than 50% .... but at least 50%.
What you are doing in your comments is consistently downplaying women's agency and free will to almost zero, and then exaggerating men as all powerful gods who are invulnerable and have absolute power and dominance over all things, including women.
That is the female equivalent of men flexing their muscles and pushing their chest out and flashing a knife or a gun. If you don't understand that then you don't understand women, men or human nature in general.
Outside of domestic abuse which is split roughly 50/ 50 between the sexes, the majority of female violence is committed by men on women's behalf, at her request, and justified by exactly the kind of female damselling you keep exhibiting.
A man can walk out of a nightclub and try to beat up another man. Perhaps he will succeed of maybe he will get beaten up himself. But a woman can walk out of a nightclub and fall to the floor, or scratch her own face, or simply scream 'Help!" and start crying and accuse some innocent man of assault, or sexual harassment and have him kidnapped and locked in a cage by other men.
The more she affects helplessness and vulnerability (and the more petite she is) the more she is able to recruit other men to enact violence on her behalf.
When taking into account violence by proxy, using the tactics just described (and there are many variations of this) many people have concluded women are actually far more violent than men.
If you want to create a parallel society of just women, be warned that this kind of female utopia usually ends in a massive catfight. Female only businesses are notoriously unworkable and often implode after about a year. And of all the combinations of cohabitation, lesbian households are the most violent statistically, and have the highest divorce rates.
Men are actually a calming and deescalating force in society. Men are stupendous at getting along, with no fuss and no weird vibes. Men naturally work well as hierarchical teams, without all the backstabbing and clique-y behaviour.
The majority of infrastructure and supply chain is managed by men just collaborating with other men and getting along just fine.
Men's main weak spot is women. Women playing the damsel and pointing to other men and labelling them as a threat is the main reason why men will become violent. This is why all war propaganda involves women expressing fear of the target group, or being raped or dragged off by them. Or it depicts soldiers being rewarded by female approval and adoration for doing their duty and protecting the women ad children. All war propaganda films show the hero getting the girl (earning female approval).
That same social power (female approval/ female rejection) could be utilised to end all wars, as I already explained in a previous comment.
All you say happens but like I say, instances are not what we must look at if we see reality properly, if we want to see "the big picture". You're pointing out pixels and I'm saying what goes on as a general but very often-true rule. Women were tossed out of their homes if they didn't abide by their husbands, and we could go on forever talking about the injustices. But nothing, absolutely nothing you could say that women do, overall, comes close to the trauma men cause. Because it is men who rape, kill, destroy lands, invade territories, banish villagepeople, and the rest of it. It's amazing women even talk to men. Who do men protect us from? Other men. It is amazing to me that men put up the defenses you cite. I have heard them thousands of times. I don't shy from this debate/discussion because I will never accept that women and men are equally violent. Women get away with their violence because the man's system doesn't hear each equally and to satisfaction. The system, again. I like to look for causes because only then can we stop the addictions.
You haven't actually read the actual history and have dismissed as irrelevant the facts and measures that over 50 years contradict your narrative. It seems you have fallen into the tropism game and argue with fart gas and not much more.
Of course, you can easily dismiss my argument because it comes from a morally inferior ubdeserving who isn't worthy of consideration because I am a man. and because I used the word fart -- although only ironically because I am sure that you rarely fart and when you do you they smell like roses.
Well firstly I want to get one thing straight - women though they do possess these traits you mentioned, no matter how bad, could never match the trauma, destruction, despair etc, that men cause and have caused. There really is no equivalence. I agree that women are responsible, but just like the general who didn't get his hands dirty, they are correct in their logic - the ones who do the deed are the ones ultimately responsible. It's all going down, all being logged, in a place we don't think about, the aether or something like that. The only logic we can rightfully hold about any of these subjects is THE ONE WHO DOES THE DEED IS ULTIMATELY RESPONSIBLE FOR THE DEED.
Oh how the ghouls love to pretend to "honor the troops", put up monuments to pretend they care. And the silly fodder all say, look we are recognized, how lovely.
It's all for show, and it's about time we all wake up to this and talk about going in another direction.
"Well firstly I want to get one thing straight - women though they do possess these traits you mentioned, no matter how bad, could never match the trauma, destruction, despair etc, that men cause and have caused."
Who are these men? You realise soldiers themselves are cannon fodder and the primary victims of war. If we had sent 18 year old women to fight the last two world wars and be blown to pieces or come back with PTSD and missing limbs I doubt anyone would be so stupid or insensitive to blame 'women' for wars.
They might instead blame governments and the ruling elite (bankers) for wars, which would be the correct answer. And they are composed of men and women, and there is strong evidence they purposefully abuse their young to ensure they grow up to be total psychopaths, capable of maintaining their family's dominance with evil acts like funding and orchestrating more wars.
".... the ones who do the deed are the ones ultimately responsible"
In most wars men face this choice: to march towards the 'enemy' (their fellow men) and risk being shot, and reduce that risk by shooting at the enemy first ... or .... refuse to march towards the enemy and be guaranteed shot by your own side for desertion/ disobeying orders.
That's the choice soldiers face. It's death from both directions. The battlefield is just another version of the colosseum with men shoved into it and forced to do battle to the death.
All wars would end if women refused to marry, socialise with, or bear the children of soldiers, and expressed social condemnation (female contempt) for soldiers. But this has never happened.
All the great tyrants of history were beaten as children. All the obedient thugs who enforce tyranny were beaten as children. Statism itself is essentially an effect of childhood violence which teaches children (at a physiological level) that 'might makes right' and 'do as I say... or else'.
We still have not fully outlawed hitting children and we do not treat those who hit their children as criminals. The majority of violence inflicted on children comes from mothers.
War is a symptom of statism, and statism is a symptom of abusive parenting.
Soldiers shoved into the battle zone are forced to fight and shot if they refuse to engage. Nobody is pointing a gun at mothers and forcing them to hit their own children.
I'll remind you that wars and banks are domains of men. Sure they put one or two women up front in ratios I call "the toothless ratio", around 20 or 25%. I have never seen armies of women have you? Also women don't collect weaponry. Now please don't tell me you know a woman who has a gun. Because that would be like trying to make it equivalent to the ratios men own weapons and it's nowhere near it. Violent crimes are almost entirely committed by men. The small number of women in the stats only proves the rule.
Now this isn't a competition or pity party - we really have to know this is what is going on. The programming which comes from male domination of all our systems, causes women to come to the defense of men. If a woman critiques a man she is instantly swooped upon by other women. Men don't even need to open their mouths. Not tat it's relevant but pointing out the numbers of men who do harm compared to women doesn't mean I detest men and wish they were obliterated (you know like the patriarchal men think should be done to whatever they don't like) I've studied these dynamics and can talk for hours on it. And none of it came from a book but from my own observations and analysis.
It is true that mothers are responsible for bringing up boys to continue in the killings and this is something we must bring out into the open.
All of it needs to be discussed so we can go on and build a beautiful society.
Yes too, that many who do these heinous things to children were brought up very badly. Well we need to stop the cycle right now, in this time that we're here for, that we're living in. Nobody should go to war, period. And we need to make a fuss about it. We need to call our men home and work to rebuild American society from the ground up.
Every week women point guns at men and demand money under the threat of being shot.
Women as a group consume more tax spending than they pay into the system, and so taxation is a transfer of wealth from men to women at gunpoint. So that's an ongoing war right there.
But by your logic women are innocent because the majority of tax enforcers are men.
By your logic the bankers who fund both sides of every war are also innocent because they do not step onto the battlefield themselves. And the wives of those bankers are also innocent because they have no idea where their fur coats and diamonds and sports cars come from. Maybe a fairy delivers them at night!
By your logic mafia bosses are also innocent because they employ hitmen to do all their dirty work too.
Even Goering (or was it Goebbels?) was honest enough to acknowledge that ordinary men have nothing to gain from war, and that the soldiers who are forced to fight wars have everything to lose, and that the best they can hope for is to return home in one piece.
Wars only work as a business enterprise if the huge material, economic and psychological costs can be dumped on someone else's shoulders. And throughout history that 'someone else' is men. Ordinary working men. And often boys too.
Everyone else just got rich because of that fairy delivering gifts at night.
You've missed my logic entirely. It goes like this - citing instances is a false equivalence. Every day women point guns at men, and everyday, men drop bombs on unarmed people. Come on now, don't tell me you think they're the same. You are being defensive because the statistics are right in our faces. There is no need to justify what men do by citing what women do which is nothing in comparison, though I agree that women are behaving badly too on the whole.
Tax enforcers are men, the designers of taxation, the designers of hierarchy all men. The system doesn't cater to women - when was the last time you saw a mother breastfeeding her infant in public without feeling inhibited, you know, as normal as an adult would eat a sandwich. We see violence and fast cars, and noisy other machinery (such as motor bikes) all the time. Noise, noise and more noise. And usually it is men making it. But they don't notice, not even women notice, its' so acceptable in the male-designed system.
Men create the wars. If men don't want to fight in them, then speak up. And if women don't want to lose their men from getting killed, they need to speak up too. The standard fare is just not acceptable in any way. No need to try to compete with what I'm saying, or feel defensive, have the clarity of mind to see that what I say is perfectly correct. Now, let's do something about it.
The Fall is not about male or female but human guilt. Both are responsible.
Wars always involve both. Be that politically, financially (taxpayer or shareholder), as a worker making components for the MIC, as a frontline soldier or FPV drone operator miles behind the lines.
In WW2:
"The 588th Night Bomber Regiment, later renamed the 46th Guards Night Bomber Aviation Regiment, was organized by Major Marina Raskova, who was instrumental in persuading Joseph Stalin to allow women to serve as combat pilots"
Men and Women are equally guilty of sin whose wages are death.
Christ sacrificed his life for all sinners male and female. The most expensive gift of salvation is available equally to all who seek it.
When women and men work together to do genuine good everyone benefits.
Citing one woman who was probably just as deranged as the men, doesn't cut it in anywhere near the same equivalence. I wish people would see that. I can't talk about "Christ" as it's a myth and turns into whatever people believe. I am talking about numbers, actual numbers and the huge differences in them. Yes some women think they should not only be slaves to male-designed society but also fight their wars with them. That's insane but it seems insanity gets the upper hand. Probably because they have the gall to push it over us who say nothing, or very little. We need to make a fuss about not killing our species - for any reason.
Like citing politicians, I do not hold anything the bible says. It is meaningless to me. There may be one or three good quotes, like one could cite by Reagan, but to put much credence to it, is to me, going in the wrong direction and will lead to bad results.
That may be so but the ones who drop bombs, collect weapons, rape children are almost universally male. That's not to put down males, but it is put down exclusively male thinking and exclusively male decision-making, without the female males have shocking judgement. Males who are whole and intelligent consult women. You are missing the point. I am referring to the perpetrators of violence. Now please don't bring in martyrs or protesters, they do not commit violence so they are irrelevant.
Feminists and liberals are the ones who put people into demographic boxes where some are demonized and others are lionized. This is not something conservative men would ever do. Most men wouldn’t do it. The victim game is female
No conservative men would have their wives be similar to a paid escort. I am glad to hear feminism be critiqued because I detest it too. It is another way for the ghouls to get their fodder going. Feminism always talks about being successful in a totally male-designed construct. That goes against females and children, not FOR them. That offializes misogyny and makes women be like men. Women have done nothing to further workplace conditions for mothers and address women's challenges overall. It's actually quite sickening to be considered feminist.
You're a very bright woman and even better than that, you do see reality pretty well as we can see from your stance on feminism. So, good on you for that. I will disagree with your ideas on how conservative men see their wives. There are always dysfunctional people in any given group, but on the whole, conservative men treasure their wives and family. My wife and I for instance make a great team. She had a stellar career in I.T. that I encouraged her to go after. She made almost as much money as me and we retired early because of it. If you were to ask her, I am quite sure that she would disagree with the idea that i have treated her like a paid escort.
As for men getting us into war all the time, you are only looking at the negatives of men. Men are more aggressive and risk taking than women. Men do indeed cause more wars than women. That is the downside of aggression and risk taking. What you are missing is the upside. Men's risk taking has given us everything that is positive in society. Air conditioning, indoor plumbing, medicine, architecture and building, creature comforts. If women ran society, sure, we wouldn't have as much war, but we would be living in mud huts. This has been demonstrated several times over, when various game shows have had separate men's and women's teams, left out into a survival situation. This was recently done on "Survivor" which had a men's team vs a women's team. Within a day, men had food, shelter and fire and a harmonious campsite. The women had none of these, because they were too busy playing status games and being passive aggressive to get anything concrete done. Men have the ability to quickly file into a hierarchy in order to get the work that needs to be done, done. This inability for women to put aside personal vendettas is why we have never had a successful female led society. If it really worked, men would gladly follow women's lead. But it doesn't work and thus men are always put into leadership roles by the collective will of the people
Great article. Yes of course the situation's complex and at risk of generalisation but there's a lot of truth in the observations. Looks like you stepped on a few toes though. Oops! Feminism is a cancer.
Come on Unbecoming, you can do better than this division between female and male ! This is the only time I’ve disliked your writings… it’s utter rubbish, imo. Everything else you’ve shared has been spot on. ..Forget trying to stereotype males and women eh!?, & focus on what a healthy HUMAN IS…..
Well, this is the 1st time I’ve ever found your writings to be distasteful. In fact ~ it’s downright blatantly against the female side of humanity. Every single sentence was slagging women off… no mention of men’s shortcomings!? Perhaps you’d like to do a piece on the downfall of masculinism? Next…. As this article has red flags 🚩in every sentence. Things AREN’T Black&White; as this long knife article leads one to believe.
I despair! Having loved many men, been married, engaged, and had a good rapport with the opposite sex, as well as encountering 1 or 2 bad apples in my lonng life; I’ve worked enthusiastically, raised my children (with & without support), and never paid for childcare, even when raising them alone, yet still being independent. I don’t vilify GOOD PEOPLE, Dislike bad people… it doesn’t matter if they’re male or female… The Human Race has bad apples on both sides. ….This long rant doesn’t look into this. It only serves to condemn the strong female. It doesn’t look into the controlling and bad violent men.. which do outnumber women actually. Men aren’t saints, nor women. But women don’t belong in the kitchen, nor are they men’s property, nor do they deserve less wages for the same job; just because they’re women.
I’m a scientist and an artist. Women can be good scientists… this article says they can’t be.
…..In fact, the whole long whine of this article put BECOMING, Sorry; UNBECOMING, To SHAME !!!
I’ve never read such Tosh in my Life!
…Can only assume the DEI globalist agenda has worked… just like BLM (Lo, MLM!!.. so do WLM!!!)…. And the whole “alternative truthist narrative” has fallen hook line and worm, for the turn, that is, the division, between men and women, and decried women as bad, as opposed to the poor oppressed men…. WHAT TOSH!!!
Get your Act together, or I might have to stop listening to this nonsense. Stop all this B&W rubbish of using someone’s opinion as fact… the world is multifaceted and complex.. it’s not “Women bad~Men persecuted”…. Far from it! The Patriarchy is alive and kicking, more than ever. Men are still controlling, manipulative and hide women their: partners, from integrating with other people, especially women. I watch it 1st hand.
Not once do you mention how man-I-Pull-A-tive MEN ARE.. How they strive for Dominance. Especially over women…. All you do is slag off women in every sentence.
We are evolving. 2 sides of Humanity.. most of us are happy in our skins and with each other…
Shame YOU Can’t be. Home schooling is out of the question for most.. and children need to mix with other children. There are not designated roles for parents… it’s up to the individual. I haven’t seen any shaming of husbands on tick-tock.. I don’t see it, or many social media platforms. I live in the real world. And what I see is a mix. Many good men, and mostly good women, but a few bad apples either side, but mostly Men who are Controlling… of their own women, and restricting. They don’t like strong single women either. You know..those that support themselves, are creative, intelligent, not interested in flattery, gone past the raising children era, soulmate passed away from cancer years ago, Jack (or Jo) of all trades, like gardening, accounts, cooking, negotiating, and Master of a few “Trades” too… as one would expect in later years.
Look; we are all human… why put down the average female, and ignore the sins of males?
This article reeks of misogyny…. It tries to negate any possible attack against it, but honestly… it is Trash!
Why don’t we think of a world, beyond the rubbish DEI (BLM etc), and realise that BOTH SIDES OF THE HUMAN RACE… MALE & FEMALE….. Yin/Yang… Sun, Mooon… ALL MATTER, & Harmony between Us is the goal, not goading one side against the other.
Feminism preys on the insecurities of women & it breeds insecure women. The only people that can stand feminists are other feminists. To those outside the feminist bubble it’s a shit show of misery. What a sad existence.
Great to have it all exposed, but NOT to throw the baby out with the bathwater. Any woman who hasn’t noticed the rampant prejudice, even if subtle, against us isn’t paying attentiion.
Feminism is just another freemasonic psyop. Like minority rights, multiculturalism, LGBTQ, racism, Marxism, space, Harry Potter... the list is endless:).
Ah, Unbekoming throws its pearls towards division! Feminism, like every grass roots movement, has been captured. In the places you don't see (or seek out) the difference between the workings of the wolf vs the sheep you might just be platforming the wolf. Obviously there are real and fake feminists; the real ones should be your allies and the fake ones don't deserve the name and legitimacy you give them. If we are to survive, this sort of division will not do, the truth of the gap between men and women must be explored, so I'm looking forward to the female version of this where we hear about the effects on the world now that the digital porn trail has burdened the majority of men with politically immobilizing kompromat. So many topics to choose from in that glass house of empowered responsibility...
LORDY!!! What an essay. What can I say? Being raised and being a young adult in the '60-70's era, We were propagandized relentlessly about women struggles. A mass assault of gargantuan proportions. Then there was my house where I was raised.
My father worked like a slave in a swelter furnace. Massive strength and endurance required. Due to the filth, showers were provided for the men after quittin time. My father walked out wearing a suit and tie. Men mocked him for such, he mocked them back, never changed his style. That Polack dressed like an English Lord always. My mother complimented that look.
My mother was the poster child for love and compassion to her six children and husband. There was no question that the husband came first. Dinner promptly at 5. Kitchen closed at 6.
We six knew the rules, we had our chores. At no time was there evidence that children lived in the house, save for bikes in the back yard and 7 pairs of ice skates hanging above the basement steps. It was a well oiled machine that worked perfectly. No fights, no back talk, no arguments between siblings, no help with our homework (that was our job), home when street lights lit up, out of sight by 8:30, parents sitting on the couch together. Then came Feminism.
It was a murder of crows. Even as a kid I could see that something was very wrong with that groupthink. That scenario compared to my happy family made no sense to me. Succumbing to feminism for about a year, it all came to a head for me when I was out with girlfriends in a rock n roll bar and a drunk young man put his hand on my butt. I slapped his face and he fell off a stool. I immediately regretted that. It was too late. What did I do to that kid? That memory haunts me to this day. I walked away from the feminist metastasis cancer and never looked back.
I never felt like I was in a camp. We were taught respect for each other. The happiest childhood I could ever imagine. My father was a riot, no one could command a room better than his litany of jokes. My mother was reserved. Five sisters together we laughed till we cried. Sound like boot camp to you?
Unless you're referring to a crime being committed, a woman who can't handle "unsolicited attention, aka harassment" in a mature fashion, you're right, I have no sympathy for, not a lick. I reacted strongly just once, regretted it, and never did that again because I learned how to act and respond properly and respectfully in the presence of men. Ashamed of being a female? , you gotta be kidding.
Feminism is a War on Humanity. Here's an except from a piece I've penned:
"To set the tone for the rest of the article, let’s read the following passage from Baxter Dmitry, who we will reference later on in the article:
“...First we need to remember that for a woman, love is an instinctive act of self-sacrifice. She gives herself to her husband and children and is fulfilled by seeing them thrive and receiving their love, respect and gratitude.
A woman makes this supreme sacrifice to only one man who will cherish her and provide for his family. Men instinctively want to fulfill this responsibility. This is the essence of the heterosexual contract (i.e. marriage): female power in exchange for male power expressed as love.
Sex is the symbol of this exclusive bond. Marriage and family may not be for everyone but it is the natural path for most.
Feminism has trained women to reject this model as “an old fashioned, oppressive stereotype” even though it reflects their natural instincts.”
https://unorthodoxy.substack.com/p/how-feminism-and-dei-destroy-humanitys
Adam's, Eve's, and Satan's fault. Although, Eve was thoroughly deceived, while Adam was not.
You should go find a forum that you can be positive within. You're not telling us anything we haven't heard, and if it hasn't convinced us by now, it never will.
Great essay! I am pleased to see Janice Fiamengo's excellent work acknowledged so eloquently. And, of course, am delighted to see your kind summary of my own contributions. I'd love to connect with you. Could you contact me please? Contact-Website@bettinaarndt.com.au
Thank you Bettina, that's very much appreciated. I will email you.
"the casual cruelty of mothers teaching their sons to hate themselves"
That's one thing that stands out to me every time I hear a woman speak of the supposed inherent evil of all men. I have two sons of my own, and I can't imagine holding such a low view of them.
Never getting married is the unfortunate answer to this.
It doesn't take a genius to figure it out.
Marriage is a contract INVOLVING the Government. Everyone knows what happens to ANYTHING the government gets involved in.
Well, this is the 1st time I’ve ever found your writings to be distasteful. In fact ~ it’s downright blatantly against the female side of humanity. Every single sentence was slagging women off… no mention of men’s shortcomings!? Perhaps you’d like to do a piece on the downfall of masculinism? Next…. As this article has red flags 🚩in every sentence. Things AREN’T Black&White; as this long knife article leads one to believe.
I despair! Having loved many men, been married, engaged, and had a good rapport with the opposite sex, as well as encountering 1 or 2 bad apples in my lonng life; I’ve worked enthusiastically, raised my children (with & without support), and never paid for childcare, even when raising them alone, yet still being independent. I don’t vilify GOOD PEOPLE, Dislike bad people… it doesn’t matter if they’re male or female… The Human Race has bad apples on both sides. ….This long rant doesn’t look into this. It only serves to condemn the strong female. It doesn’t look into the controlling and bad violent men.. which do outnumber women actually. Men aren’t saints, nor women. But women don’t belong in the kitchen, nor are they men’s property, nor do they deserve less wages for the same job; just because they’re women.
I’m a scientist and an artist. Women can be good scientists… this article says they can’t be.
…..In fact, the whole long whine of this article put BECOMING, Sorry; UNBECOMING, To SHAME !!!
I’ve never read such Tosh in my Life!
…Can only assume the DEI globalist agenda has worked… just like BLM (Lo, MLM!!.. so do WLM!!!)…. And the whole “alternative truthist narrative” has fallen hook line and worm, for the turn, that is, the division, between men and women, and decried women as bad, as opposed to the poor oppressed men…. WHAT TOSH!!!
Get your Act together, or I might have to stop listening to this nonsense. Stop all this B&W rubbish of using someone’s opinion as fact… the world is multifaceted and complex.. it’s not “Women bad~Men persecuted”…. Far from it! The Patriarchy is alive and kicking, more than ever. Men are still controlling, manipulative and hide women their: partners, from integrating with other people, especially women. I watch it 1st hand.
Not once do you mention how man-I-Pull-A-tive MEN ARE.. How they strive for Dominance. Especially over women…. All you do is slag off women in every sentence.
We are evolving. 2 sides of Humanity.. most of us are happy in our skins and with each other…
Shame YOU Can’t be. Home schooling is out of the question for most.. and children need to mix with other children. There are not designated roles for parents… it’s up to the individual. I haven’t seen any shaming of husbands on tick-tock.. I don’t see it, or many social media platforms. I live in the real world. And what I see is a mix. Many good men, and mostly good women, but a few bad apples either side, but mostly Men who are Controlling… of their own women, and restricting. They don’t like strong single women either. You know..those that support themselves, are creative, intelligent, not interested in flattery, gone past the raising children era, soulmate passed away from cancer years ago, Jack (or Jo) of all trades, like gardening, accounts, cooking, negotiating, and Master of a few “Trades” too… as one would expect in later years.
Look; we are all human… why put down the average female, and ignore the sins of males?
This article reeks of misogyny…. It tries to negate any possible attack against it, but honestly… it is Trash!
Why don’t we think of a world, beyond the rubbish DEI (BLM etc), and realise that BOTH SIDES OF THE HUMAN RACE… MALE & FEMALE….. Yin/Yang… Sun, Mooon… ALL MATTER, & Harmony between Us is the goal, not goading one side against the other.
You honestly sound like a nut case. You exemplify the very things this article speaks against.
Superb article. Janet F is a treasure.
I'm glad to be having this conversation. I want to make it plain that I like men in fact they are my best friends usually. However I can't deny what I see. Whatever women do, pales in comparison to what men seem to constantly get themselves into - war. All our societal documents are written solely by men and this peeves me because how can they be balanced when only one perspective is put forward? I thing we ought to put patriarchy behind us and now build new models in society based on true egalitarianism. Not for anyone to rule over anyone else. We can do that now with technology that we all possess. The past is ugly because it was only men who dictated how life would be for everyone. They didn't think anything of going to war. The entire legal system is riddled with the belief in supremacy and that is the real problem - the idea that some are more superior than others (which also puts others in an inferior position) And this dynamic is constantly in our faces in everyday life as people have come to accept it without their knowing. I am not a feminist, I am a humanist, and a naturalist that cares about all humanity and nature. We can't keep going the way we are with our battering of nature and each other. With our warmongering and some living lavishly while others starve. It's a perfect time to begin a new direction.
1. Do average men (the overwhelming majority of men) ever benefit from the wars they are sent to fight?
2. Do women idolise and sexualise soldiers?
3. Do women ever throw panties at strippers dressed as soldiers and turn into a slippery mess in the presence of 'men in uniform' (men dressed as professional killers)?
4. Have women ever shamed and ostracised men who refused to go to war?
5. Have women ever intervened to stop war, stepping onto the battlefield to save their husbands, brothers or sons by standing in solidarity with them?
6. Women as a group consistently vote for bigger government and more government taxation and spending - which in turn leads to escalating wars. Has any women's movement ever proposed a reduction in the size of the state (and its eventual elimination altogether) which would require women to go back to being dependent on men once more? If war is an effect of taxation, then women's voting habits are in fact the primary cause of war, and men being turned to mincemeat on the battlefield is simply a consequence of war.
7. Women are the majority of voters. Women are the majority of teachers and daycare staff. Fathers have been driven out of the family home by feminism. Single motherhood is at an all time high and is promoted as a lifestyle choice by feminists. Feminism has all but eradicated men from the lives of children. The mass media and Hollywood are completely feminised and promote feminist dogma. So are schools and universities. Why is this trend creating more chaos, confusion, conflict and division in society and not less?
8. Before claiming we would have a utopia if women were in charge, you need to prove your premise that women are NOT in charge currently.
9. Generals sitting around a table 2000 miles from the front lines do not fight wars. Ordinary soldiers fight wars. If a general claims he is not responsible for war because he never got his hands dirty on the battlefield, do you accept his claim? If not, why do you assume women are not responsible for war?
10. Is it fair to say that throughout the animal kingdom females often provoke males to fight (sometimes to the death) and that the females will only accept and mate with the winning male? Did you know that female lions bite male lions engaged in such competition, to provoke them into finishing the fight, whenever they show signs of wanting to make peace and chill out as bros? Did you know that in high crime neighbourhoods women looking for a boyfriend will select men who have served time in prison for violent crime over men who have not?
As to the fights between males over females in the animal kingdom, this is a red herring. We are animals but we are nothing like them. Everything we think comes only from the male perspective. If you say anything at all that made sense it would be to tell women to design their own system. But instead the argument always is trying to prove that females are just as violent as males, and we know that is not true. That even you would be taken aback if three men walked out of a tavern late at night, as opposed to three women. There is nothing like it and men think they know but they only know half of everything to know.
"Everything we think comes only from the male perspective."
So here you are defining women as children, imbeciles, objects or clouds of inert gas. This allows you to evade all responsibility for women's behaviour and women's contributions to the state of the world, which I would argue is more than 50% .... but at least 50%.
What you are doing in your comments is consistently downplaying women's agency and free will to almost zero, and then exaggerating men as all powerful gods who are invulnerable and have absolute power and dominance over all things, including women.
That is the female equivalent of men flexing their muscles and pushing their chest out and flashing a knife or a gun. If you don't understand that then you don't understand women, men or human nature in general.
Outside of domestic abuse which is split roughly 50/ 50 between the sexes, the majority of female violence is committed by men on women's behalf, at her request, and justified by exactly the kind of female damselling you keep exhibiting.
A man can walk out of a nightclub and try to beat up another man. Perhaps he will succeed of maybe he will get beaten up himself. But a woman can walk out of a nightclub and fall to the floor, or scratch her own face, or simply scream 'Help!" and start crying and accuse some innocent man of assault, or sexual harassment and have him kidnapped and locked in a cage by other men.
The more she affects helplessness and vulnerability (and the more petite she is) the more she is able to recruit other men to enact violence on her behalf.
When taking into account violence by proxy, using the tactics just described (and there are many variations of this) many people have concluded women are actually far more violent than men.
If you want to create a parallel society of just women, be warned that this kind of female utopia usually ends in a massive catfight. Female only businesses are notoriously unworkable and often implode after about a year. And of all the combinations of cohabitation, lesbian households are the most violent statistically, and have the highest divorce rates.
Men are actually a calming and deescalating force in society. Men are stupendous at getting along, with no fuss and no weird vibes. Men naturally work well as hierarchical teams, without all the backstabbing and clique-y behaviour.
The majority of infrastructure and supply chain is managed by men just collaborating with other men and getting along just fine.
Men's main weak spot is women. Women playing the damsel and pointing to other men and labelling them as a threat is the main reason why men will become violent. This is why all war propaganda involves women expressing fear of the target group, or being raped or dragged off by them. Or it depicts soldiers being rewarded by female approval and adoration for doing their duty and protecting the women ad children. All war propaganda films show the hero getting the girl (earning female approval).
That same social power (female approval/ female rejection) could be utilised to end all wars, as I already explained in a previous comment.
All you say happens but like I say, instances are not what we must look at if we see reality properly, if we want to see "the big picture". You're pointing out pixels and I'm saying what goes on as a general but very often-true rule. Women were tossed out of their homes if they didn't abide by their husbands, and we could go on forever talking about the injustices. But nothing, absolutely nothing you could say that women do, overall, comes close to the trauma men cause. Because it is men who rape, kill, destroy lands, invade territories, banish villagepeople, and the rest of it. It's amazing women even talk to men. Who do men protect us from? Other men. It is amazing to me that men put up the defenses you cite. I have heard them thousands of times. I don't shy from this debate/discussion because I will never accept that women and men are equally violent. Women get away with their violence because the man's system doesn't hear each equally and to satisfaction. The system, again. I like to look for causes because only then can we stop the addictions.
You haven't actually read the actual history and have dismissed as irrelevant the facts and measures that over 50 years contradict your narrative. It seems you have fallen into the tropism game and argue with fart gas and not much more.
Of course, you can easily dismiss my argument because it comes from a morally inferior ubdeserving who isn't worthy of consideration because I am a man. and because I used the word fart -- although only ironically because I am sure that you rarely fart and when you do you they smell like roses.
Well firstly I want to get one thing straight - women though they do possess these traits you mentioned, no matter how bad, could never match the trauma, destruction, despair etc, that men cause and have caused. There really is no equivalence. I agree that women are responsible, but just like the general who didn't get his hands dirty, they are correct in their logic - the ones who do the deed are the ones ultimately responsible. It's all going down, all being logged, in a place we don't think about, the aether or something like that. The only logic we can rightfully hold about any of these subjects is THE ONE WHO DOES THE DEED IS ULTIMATELY RESPONSIBLE FOR THE DEED.
Oh how the ghouls love to pretend to "honor the troops", put up monuments to pretend they care. And the silly fodder all say, look we are recognized, how lovely.
It's all for show, and it's about time we all wake up to this and talk about going in another direction.
"Well firstly I want to get one thing straight - women though they do possess these traits you mentioned, no matter how bad, could never match the trauma, destruction, despair etc, that men cause and have caused."
Who are these men? You realise soldiers themselves are cannon fodder and the primary victims of war. If we had sent 18 year old women to fight the last two world wars and be blown to pieces or come back with PTSD and missing limbs I doubt anyone would be so stupid or insensitive to blame 'women' for wars.
They might instead blame governments and the ruling elite (bankers) for wars, which would be the correct answer. And they are composed of men and women, and there is strong evidence they purposefully abuse their young to ensure they grow up to be total psychopaths, capable of maintaining their family's dominance with evil acts like funding and orchestrating more wars.
".... the ones who do the deed are the ones ultimately responsible"
In most wars men face this choice: to march towards the 'enemy' (their fellow men) and risk being shot, and reduce that risk by shooting at the enemy first ... or .... refuse to march towards the enemy and be guaranteed shot by your own side for desertion/ disobeying orders.
That's the choice soldiers face. It's death from both directions. The battlefield is just another version of the colosseum with men shoved into it and forced to do battle to the death.
All wars would end if women refused to marry, socialise with, or bear the children of soldiers, and expressed social condemnation (female contempt) for soldiers. But this has never happened.
All the great tyrants of history were beaten as children. All the obedient thugs who enforce tyranny were beaten as children. Statism itself is essentially an effect of childhood violence which teaches children (at a physiological level) that 'might makes right' and 'do as I say... or else'.
We still have not fully outlawed hitting children and we do not treat those who hit their children as criminals. The majority of violence inflicted on children comes from mothers.
War is a symptom of statism, and statism is a symptom of abusive parenting.
Soldiers shoved into the battle zone are forced to fight and shot if they refuse to engage. Nobody is pointing a gun at mothers and forcing them to hit their own children.
I'll remind you that wars and banks are domains of men. Sure they put one or two women up front in ratios I call "the toothless ratio", around 20 or 25%. I have never seen armies of women have you? Also women don't collect weaponry. Now please don't tell me you know a woman who has a gun. Because that would be like trying to make it equivalent to the ratios men own weapons and it's nowhere near it. Violent crimes are almost entirely committed by men. The small number of women in the stats only proves the rule.
Now this isn't a competition or pity party - we really have to know this is what is going on. The programming which comes from male domination of all our systems, causes women to come to the defense of men. If a woman critiques a man she is instantly swooped upon by other women. Men don't even need to open their mouths. Not tat it's relevant but pointing out the numbers of men who do harm compared to women doesn't mean I detest men and wish they were obliterated (you know like the patriarchal men think should be done to whatever they don't like) I've studied these dynamics and can talk for hours on it. And none of it came from a book but from my own observations and analysis.
It is true that mothers are responsible for bringing up boys to continue in the killings and this is something we must bring out into the open.
All of it needs to be discussed so we can go on and build a beautiful society.
Yes too, that many who do these heinous things to children were brought up very badly. Well we need to stop the cycle right now, in this time that we're here for, that we're living in. Nobody should go to war, period. And we need to make a fuss about it. We need to call our men home and work to rebuild American society from the ground up.
Every week women point guns at men and demand money under the threat of being shot.
Women as a group consume more tax spending than they pay into the system, and so taxation is a transfer of wealth from men to women at gunpoint. So that's an ongoing war right there.
But by your logic women are innocent because the majority of tax enforcers are men.
By your logic the bankers who fund both sides of every war are also innocent because they do not step onto the battlefield themselves. And the wives of those bankers are also innocent because they have no idea where their fur coats and diamonds and sports cars come from. Maybe a fairy delivers them at night!
By your logic mafia bosses are also innocent because they employ hitmen to do all their dirty work too.
Even Goering (or was it Goebbels?) was honest enough to acknowledge that ordinary men have nothing to gain from war, and that the soldiers who are forced to fight wars have everything to lose, and that the best they can hope for is to return home in one piece.
Wars only work as a business enterprise if the huge material, economic and psychological costs can be dumped on someone else's shoulders. And throughout history that 'someone else' is men. Ordinary working men. And often boys too.
Everyone else just got rich because of that fairy delivering gifts at night.
You've missed my logic entirely. It goes like this - citing instances is a false equivalence. Every day women point guns at men, and everyday, men drop bombs on unarmed people. Come on now, don't tell me you think they're the same. You are being defensive because the statistics are right in our faces. There is no need to justify what men do by citing what women do which is nothing in comparison, though I agree that women are behaving badly too on the whole.
Tax enforcers are men, the designers of taxation, the designers of hierarchy all men. The system doesn't cater to women - when was the last time you saw a mother breastfeeding her infant in public without feeling inhibited, you know, as normal as an adult would eat a sandwich. We see violence and fast cars, and noisy other machinery (such as motor bikes) all the time. Noise, noise and more noise. And usually it is men making it. But they don't notice, not even women notice, its' so acceptable in the male-designed system.
Men create the wars. If men don't want to fight in them, then speak up. And if women don't want to lose their men from getting killed, they need to speak up too. The standard fare is just not acceptable in any way. No need to try to compete with what I'm saying, or feel defensive, have the clarity of mind to see that what I say is perfectly correct. Now, let's do something about it.
The Fall is not about male or female but human guilt. Both are responsible.
Wars always involve both. Be that politically, financially (taxpayer or shareholder), as a worker making components for the MIC, as a frontline soldier or FPV drone operator miles behind the lines.
In WW2:
"The 588th Night Bomber Regiment, later renamed the 46th Guards Night Bomber Aviation Regiment, was organized by Major Marina Raskova, who was instrumental in persuading Joseph Stalin to allow women to serve as combat pilots"
Men and Women are equally guilty of sin whose wages are death.
Christ sacrificed his life for all sinners male and female. The most expensive gift of salvation is available equally to all who seek it.
When women and men work together to do genuine good everyone benefits.
Citing one woman who was probably just as deranged as the men, doesn't cut it in anywhere near the same equivalence. I wish people would see that. I can't talk about "Christ" as it's a myth and turns into whatever people believe. I am talking about numbers, actual numbers and the huge differences in them. Yes some women think they should not only be slaves to male-designed society but also fight their wars with them. That's insane but it seems insanity gets the upper hand. Probably because they have the gall to push it over us who say nothing, or very little. We need to make a fuss about not killing our species - for any reason.
Logos means critical thinking. See John 1.
Recommend reading the Gospels in context of the society at the time - probably the most freeing ideas for both women and men ever written.
Kindly define myth.
Experience here suggests otherwise. There are no atheists in a fox hole.
Like citing politicians, I do not hold anything the bible says. It is meaningless to me. There may be one or three good quotes, like one could cite by Reagan, but to put much credence to it, is to me, going in the wrong direction and will lead to bad results.
The anti war marchers are both male and female.
Likewise the martyrs. Like those in Syria & elsewhere right now.
That may be so but the ones who drop bombs, collect weapons, rape children are almost universally male. That's not to put down males, but it is put down exclusively male thinking and exclusively male decision-making, without the female males have shocking judgement. Males who are whole and intelligent consult women. You are missing the point. I am referring to the perpetrators of violence. Now please don't bring in martyrs or protesters, they do not commit violence so they are irrelevant.
All good points
Feminists and liberals are the ones who put people into demographic boxes where some are demonized and others are lionized. This is not something conservative men would ever do. Most men wouldn’t do it. The victim game is female
No conservative men would have their wives be similar to a paid escort. I am glad to hear feminism be critiqued because I detest it too. It is another way for the ghouls to get their fodder going. Feminism always talks about being successful in a totally male-designed construct. That goes against females and children, not FOR them. That offializes misogyny and makes women be like men. Women have done nothing to further workplace conditions for mothers and address women's challenges overall. It's actually quite sickening to be considered feminist.
You're a very bright woman and even better than that, you do see reality pretty well as we can see from your stance on feminism. So, good on you for that. I will disagree with your ideas on how conservative men see their wives. There are always dysfunctional people in any given group, but on the whole, conservative men treasure their wives and family. My wife and I for instance make a great team. She had a stellar career in I.T. that I encouraged her to go after. She made almost as much money as me and we retired early because of it. If you were to ask her, I am quite sure that she would disagree with the idea that i have treated her like a paid escort.
As for men getting us into war all the time, you are only looking at the negatives of men. Men are more aggressive and risk taking than women. Men do indeed cause more wars than women. That is the downside of aggression and risk taking. What you are missing is the upside. Men's risk taking has given us everything that is positive in society. Air conditioning, indoor plumbing, medicine, architecture and building, creature comforts. If women ran society, sure, we wouldn't have as much war, but we would be living in mud huts. This has been demonstrated several times over, when various game shows have had separate men's and women's teams, left out into a survival situation. This was recently done on "Survivor" which had a men's team vs a women's team. Within a day, men had food, shelter and fire and a harmonious campsite. The women had none of these, because they were too busy playing status games and being passive aggressive to get anything concrete done. Men have the ability to quickly file into a hierarchy in order to get the work that needs to be done, done. This inability for women to put aside personal vendettas is why we have never had a successful female led society. If it really worked, men would gladly follow women's lead. But it doesn't work and thus men are always put into leadership roles by the collective will of the people
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Excellent treatise, I truly hope those offended in the first section will stick with it until the end-its truly worth it.
In a nutshell, it's always and ever has been about controlling the masses.
People will not organise to fight back against PTB, if they are too busy fighting, and traumatising eachother, will they? 🙂🤔🤫😉
It's hopefully that more people are choosing not to buy the koolaid. Just hope it's not too late.😉
Great article. Yes of course the situation's complex and at risk of generalisation but there's a lot of truth in the observations. Looks like you stepped on a few toes though. Oops! Feminism is a cancer.
Come on Unbecoming, you can do better than this division between female and male ! This is the only time I’ve disliked your writings… it’s utter rubbish, imo. Everything else you’ve shared has been spot on. ..Forget trying to stereotype males and women eh!?, & focus on what a healthy HUMAN IS…..
Well, this is the 1st time I’ve ever found your writings to be distasteful. In fact ~ it’s downright blatantly against the female side of humanity. Every single sentence was slagging women off… no mention of men’s shortcomings!? Perhaps you’d like to do a piece on the downfall of masculinism? Next…. As this article has red flags 🚩in every sentence. Things AREN’T Black&White; as this long knife article leads one to believe.
I despair! Having loved many men, been married, engaged, and had a good rapport with the opposite sex, as well as encountering 1 or 2 bad apples in my lonng life; I’ve worked enthusiastically, raised my children (with & without support), and never paid for childcare, even when raising them alone, yet still being independent. I don’t vilify GOOD PEOPLE, Dislike bad people… it doesn’t matter if they’re male or female… The Human Race has bad apples on both sides. ….This long rant doesn’t look into this. It only serves to condemn the strong female. It doesn’t look into the controlling and bad violent men.. which do outnumber women actually. Men aren’t saints, nor women. But women don’t belong in the kitchen, nor are they men’s property, nor do they deserve less wages for the same job; just because they’re women.
I’m a scientist and an artist. Women can be good scientists… this article says they can’t be.
…..In fact, the whole long whine of this article put BECOMING, Sorry; UNBECOMING, To SHAME !!!
I’ve never read such Tosh in my Life!
…Can only assume the DEI globalist agenda has worked… just like BLM (Lo, MLM!!.. so do WLM!!!)…. And the whole “alternative truthist narrative” has fallen hook line and worm, for the turn, that is, the division, between men and women, and decried women as bad, as opposed to the poor oppressed men…. WHAT TOSH!!!
Get your Act together, or I might have to stop listening to this nonsense. Stop all this B&W rubbish of using someone’s opinion as fact… the world is multifaceted and complex.. it’s not “Women bad~Men persecuted”…. Far from it! The Patriarchy is alive and kicking, more than ever. Men are still controlling, manipulative and hide women their: partners, from integrating with other people, especially women. I watch it 1st hand.
Not once do you mention how man-I-Pull-A-tive MEN ARE.. How they strive for Dominance. Especially over women…. All you do is slag off women in every sentence.
We are evolving. 2 sides of Humanity.. most of us are happy in our skins and with each other…
Shame YOU Can’t be. Home schooling is out of the question for most.. and children need to mix with other children. There are not designated roles for parents… it’s up to the individual. I haven’t seen any shaming of husbands on tick-tock.. I don’t see it, or many social media platforms. I live in the real world. And what I see is a mix. Many good men, and mostly good women, but a few bad apples either side, but mostly Men who are Controlling… of their own women, and restricting. They don’t like strong single women either. You know..those that support themselves, are creative, intelligent, not interested in flattery, gone past the raising children era, soulmate passed away from cancer years ago, Jack (or Jo) of all trades, like gardening, accounts, cooking, negotiating, and Master of a few “Trades” too… as one would expect in later years.
Look; we are all human… why put down the average female, and ignore the sins of males?
This article reeks of misogyny…. It tries to negate any possible attack against it, but honestly… it is Trash!
Why don’t we think of a world, beyond the rubbish DEI (BLM etc), and realise that BOTH SIDES OF THE HUMAN RACE… MALE & FEMALE….. Yin/Yang… Sun, Mooon… ALL MATTER, & Harmony between Us is the goal, not goading one side against the other.
Feminism preys on the insecurities of women & it breeds insecure women. The only people that can stand feminists are other feminists. To those outside the feminist bubble it’s a shit show of misery. What a sad existence.
Great to have it all exposed, but NOT to throw the baby out with the bathwater. Any woman who hasn’t noticed the rampant prejudice, even if subtle, against us isn’t paying attentiion.
Feminism is just another freemasonic psyop. Like minority rights, multiculturalism, LGBTQ, racism, Marxism, space, Harry Potter... the list is endless:).
Ah, Unbekoming throws its pearls towards division! Feminism, like every grass roots movement, has been captured. In the places you don't see (or seek out) the difference between the workings of the wolf vs the sheep you might just be platforming the wolf. Obviously there are real and fake feminists; the real ones should be your allies and the fake ones don't deserve the name and legitimacy you give them. If we are to survive, this sort of division will not do, the truth of the gap between men and women must be explored, so I'm looking forward to the female version of this where we hear about the effects on the world now that the digital porn trail has burdened the majority of men with politically immobilizing kompromat. So many topics to choose from in that glass house of empowered responsibility...